Getting over from a breakup

"A breakup can crush your joyful disposition and replace it with tearful despair."

This is the first line i have read on the article "how can I get over a breakup", Awake 02/09 issue and i just wanted to share my point of view and what i have learned after reading the article.

Everyone who have experienced 'breakup' would definitely agree on that statement. The article also tells the story of Susan and Jeff who have been dating for 2 years. that Jeff have suddenly called of their relationship. While i was reading their story, i have found out that i am also in the same situation as Susan's.

We've been dating for more than a year already and even for that short period of time our emotional feelings have grew. We have been seeing each other everyday and sending text messages from time to time. I have felt the comfort on him that i always wanted. But then, all things have been changed. And like Susan i became mentally and physically exhausted.

The first week of our breakup I've been on to the stage of DENIAL. I can't believe and accept that its over and always believe in myself that any time soon he would change his mind. in the second week of our breakup, i have been already on the stage of ANGER. I hated him for that i don't know. From that moment on i have felt DEPRESSION but im hoping sooner or later i will pass all this stages and got the ACCEPTANCE i should have to. I know i can get through all of this if i would just follow the advice on this article.

Moving Forward

You may have heard the saying, Time heals all wounds. When you first breakup, those words might ring hollow. That's because time is only part of the solution. Ti illustrate: A cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional wound. Right now it hurts but there are steps you can take to lessen the pain and keep it from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours? Try the following:

• Allow yourself to grieve

There's nothing wrong in having a good cry. After all the bible says that there is "a time to weep" and even a "time to wail." (Ecclesiastes 3;1, 4) Shedding tears doesn't mean your weak. In the midst of emotional anguish, David- a courageous warrior- once admitted: "every night my bed is damp from weeping, my pillow is soaked with tears." - Psalm 6:6, Today's english version.

• Take care of your physical health

Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the energy lost from emotional toll of a breakup. " Bodily training is benificail," the Bible says,. - 1 Timothy 4:8.

• Keep busy

Don't stop doing the things that interest you. And now more than ever, don't isolate yourself. (Proverbs 18:1) Associating with those who care about you will give you something positive on which you focus.

• Pray to God about your feelings
  

This might be a challenge. After a breakup, some even feel betrayed by God. They reason, "I prayed and prayed that i would find someone, and now look what happened!"(Psalm 10:1) Would it be rigt though to view God as merely a celestial matchmaker? surely not; nor is he responsible when one party does not wish the relationship to continue. We do know this about Jehovah: " He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7) So pour out your feelings to him in prayer. The Bible states: " Let your petitions be made known to God; and peace of God that excels all thought willl guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6, 7.


Awake(February 2009), How can i get over a breakup, pg 18-20.